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Starting university is often presented as one of the most sociable and exciting periods of a person’s life. New friendships, busy campuses, shared accommodation and regular events can make student life appear constantly full of connection.
The reality, however, can be very different.
Students may feel lonely even when living with other people, attending lectures and spending time in crowded spaces. Moving away from home, adjusting to a new city and building a support network from scratch can all take time.
Loneliness Awareness Week provides an opportunity to talk more openly about these experiences.
It also highlights an important point that can sometimes be overlooked when choosing student accommodation: where you live can have a significant influence on how connected, comfortable and supported you feel at university.
Loneliness is not simply about the number of people around you. A student can live in a busy house share and still feel disconnected, particularly if housemates have different routines, interests or expectations.
Some students may also find it difficult to make close friendships during the first few weeks of university. Social media can make this harder by creating the impression that everyone else has immediately found a strong friendship group.
For international students, mature students and those arriving from smaller towns, the adjustment may feel particularly significant. Students with disabilities, social anxiety or additional support needs may also face barriers to joining activities or meeting new people.
Recognising loneliness as a normal human experience can reduce some of the shame surrounding it.
It does not mean that a student has failed socially or chosen the wrong university. It may simply mean that they need more time, different opportunities or a living environment that better supports connection.
Accommodation is more than somewhere to sleep. It often becomes the centre of a student’s daily routine, particularly during the first year of university.
A welcoming kitchen, comfortable shared living area or accessible communal space can create natural opportunities for conversation. Small interactions, such as cooking at the same time, sharing a cup of tea or watching television together, can gradually turn unfamiliar housemates into trusted friends.
By contrast, accommodation that feels isolated or lacks usable communal areas may make socialising more difficult. Students who spend most of their time alone in their rooms may have fewer casual opportunities to connect with others.
This does not mean every student needs to live in a large or highly social property. Some people prefer quieter homes and smaller household groups. The important thing is finding an environment that matches the student’s personality and social needs.
The location of student accommodation can shape how easily someone becomes involved in university life.
Living within reasonable travelling distance of campus can make it easier to attend lectures, society meetings, evening events and informal gatherings. Students may be more willing to stay for an activity after class when they know the journey home is straightforward.
In cities such as Nottingham, Leeds, Manchester and Birmingham, students can choose between accommodation close to campus and properties in established student neighbourhoods.
Areas with shops, cafés, libraries, sports facilities and reliable public transport may help students feel part of the wider community.
At universities with more spread-out campuses, such as the University of Warwick or the University of York, understanding transport links can be particularly important. A property may appear close on a map but still require a difficult journey at certain times of day.
Before choosing accommodation, students should consider not only the distance to lectures but also how easily they can reach social spaces, supermarkets, healthcare services and places connected to their interests.
A positive house share can provide an informal support network. Housemates may notice when someone has had a difficult day, encourage them to leave the house or simply provide company during quieter evenings.
However, these relationships often require effort. Students should not assume that a close household will form automatically. Suggesting a shared meal, creating a group chat or arranging a regular film night can help break down barriers.
Clear communication also matters. Disagreements about cleaning, noise, guests and shared bills can create tension, making the property feel less comfortable. Discussing expectations early can help everyone feel respected.
Students searching for second or third-year accommodation may benefit from thinking carefully about who they choose to live with. Close friends are not always compatible housemates, while people with similar routines and attitudes may create a more supportive home environment.
Accommodation can support social connection, but it should not be the only source of it. Developing several support networks can help students feel more secure.
University societies, sports clubs, volunteering projects and part-time jobs all offer opportunities to meet people through shared interests. The University of Bristol, Newcastle University and the University of Sheffield, like many UK institutions, have wide-ranging student societies covering culture, sport, faith, hobbies and academic subjects.
Students do not need to attend large events to make connections. Smaller activities, regular study groups and repeated contact with the same people can often lead to stronger relationships.
Local communities can also provide valuable connections. Libraries, gyms, community centres and independent cafés may help students feel that they belong to the city rather than simply passing through it.
Sometimes loneliness becomes persistent and begins to affect sleep, motivation, confidence or academic performance. In these situations, students should be encouraged to seek support.
Most universities provide wellbeing services, counselling, student advice teams and peer-support programmes. Personal tutors and accommodation teams may also be able to help students identify appropriate support.
Students can also speak with their GP or contact external mental health and listening services. Asking for support should not be seen as a last resort. Early conversations can prevent feelings of isolation from becoming more difficult to manage.
The right student accommodation cannot guarantee friendships or remove every difficult moment. However, it can create the conditions for connection.
A suitable location, compatible housemates, welcoming shared spaces and access to local amenities can all make it easier to build routines and relationships. Students should therefore look beyond rent and bedroom size when choosing where to live.
Loneliness Awareness Week is a useful reminder that student housing decisions can affect more than convenience. Where a student lives can influence whether they feel isolated from university life or supported by a community they can gradually call their own.